A Personal Note From Orion

All of us are looking for love, but where do we go wrong when we try to find it? Is it because we’re trying too hard, or because we’re not trying at all?

In today’s Stellar Conversations episode, I’m excited to share my interview on the Join Up Dots podcast with David Ralph. David and I delve into finding your true self to become a love magnet – someone who attracts love. We also discuss why we need to balance our masculine and feminine energies, and how to remove our limiting beliefs from our relationships. In addition, I share my journey to find my soulmate after a breakthrough at a Tony Robbins event.

This episode contains amazing tips that can help you find love and relationships. So, without further ado, on with the show!

 

 

In This Episode

• [01:19] – David Ralph, the host of Join Up Dots, introduces Orion. Orion explains how you can get love in your life.
• [05:13] – How does inner confidence become a powerful asset? What secrets to transforming into a sexy and juicy version of yourself?
• [08:50] – Orion describes a love magnet. She also distinguishes women in the dating world.
• [13:25] – How can a woman awaken the inner goddess in her? 
• [15:02] – David talks about his wife, prompting Orion to explain how to tap into the playful, childlike energy.
• [23:44] – Orion speaks about her mission.
• [24:23] – David praises some of Orion’s episodes that he has already listened to and some of Orion’s experiences featured on her website.
• [30:54] – Orion explains how she ignited her passion and embraced her power.
• [40:36] – Orion and David talk about balancing a relationship in terms of magnet energy and polarity energy.
• [43:34] – How do Orion’s clients change during and after coaching with her?
• [46:33] – David tells what he likes about Orion’s coaching method.
• [50:50] – What would Orion advise the young Orion?

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About Today’s Show

When we’re young, we have an amazing, positive outlook about how great life is going to be, but somewhere along the line, we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and choose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. 

Here’s your host, David Ralph, from the back of his garden in the UK.

Yes, hello there. Good morning, and welcome to Join Up Dots. This is the UK’s sexiest podcaster coming from the United Kingdom, blasting across the world and attracting women like a magnet to me. So that’s what we’ll be talking about today because today’s lady is a love magnet. She’s a love missile. She’s a motivational guru that can get people doing the old stuff the kids don’t want to know about, but it’s great. Or maybe there’s more to it as well, but who knows?

She is blazing a path across the world, uniquely her and helping people find love and amazing relationships everywhere. Now, you might expect that the introduction will talk about California beaches, yoga retreats, and other such things, but by now, as you will know, it’s not what we do at Join Up Dots.

Instead, we’d like to start with the words of the lady herself, who says, “I was a rebel in my teenage years. At 18 years old, I served in the intelligence unit of the IDF. It taught me discipline and responsibility. Soon after my service ended, my free spirit took me to Japan. I lived in this magical place for 3 ½ years with better than the best sushi you’ve ever had, but I knew that life had more to offer even better than sushi.” 

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She dreamed of becoming the next Angelina Jolie and moved to New York City to study acting. Her dreams were within reach when she got minor roles in independent films. Now, as she says, it wasn’t all easy. She endured a crippling bout of depression that lasted for years after escaping an abusive relationship. After that, she did everything possible to mend her heart and regain strength. 

“The process of rising like a phoenix from my own ashes was the catalyst for becoming a coach and helping others in the same way I was helped. But, sometimes, you must endure great pain and difficulty to unwrap your true gifts.” Isn’t that what we see every day in Join Up Dots? The bad stuff is the gold, and the good stuff is just that good. Nice to live through, but it doesn’t teach you anything. 

Now, with her coaching business, podcast, and testimonials growing daily, it’s (without a doubt) clear to everyone that this lady needed the tough times to become who she is today. But when did she realize that her dreams of a youngster were not actually the dreams that adults should cling to? Where do people go wrong when trying to find love, trying too hard, or not trying at all? Let’s find out as we bring her to the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Orion Talmay.

Hello, Orion. How are you?

Hello, David, how are you?

I am amazing. I felt all wrapped up. Didn’t you know, “I want to know what love is. I want you to show me?” Show me what love is. How do I get love in my life? Do I need to love myself first before I can get love? There are so many love questions. Where should we start? You take control of the episode.

If you are in a low vibration, you will draw from your point of attraction and attract somebody who can be mean, absent, abusive, and unkind.

Where should we start? People with a certain amount of self-love, respect, and dignity can attract the right person into their lives. If not, if they are in a low vibration, they will draw from their point of attraction, which is of a low vibration, and they will attract somebody who can be mean, absent, abusive, and unkind.

In summary—I must be a professional podcaster—we’ve got right to the nitty gritty instantly here.

You are so professional. It was so lovely listening to your intro that I forgot I was here.

I forgot you’re here as well. That’s the problem in my life. I open my mouth and think, “oh, blimey, somebody else is here. I can’t just keep talking about myself all the time.” I get told off about that. I shouldn’t be doing that.

When you are in an environment where you love yourself, is it just that inner confidence? We’re not talking about kissing mirrors or being egotistical or narcissistic. Is it just the case that confidence is attractive to people? Is that as simple as it gets?

Yeah. I just finished a three-month training with my client, which was amazing because we took an inventory, went over everything she wanted to achieve, and just checked boxes. 

She completely transformed in three months because now that she owns herself, owns her inner goddess, looks at herself differently, and awakens that place in her that is more sexy, juicy, and alive, people notice her. People treat her differently. Her coworkers treat her differently. As a result, she started building her community and attracted more abundance into her life.

In love and life, everything you do and achieve can come from desire, self-confidence, and owning who you are because people want you for who you are. People want what you have to offer, the unique you. When you’re hiding, it’s hard to attract the right people, businesses, and clients into your life.

Orion, I think I made a mistake. I guess I was looking for sexy women, but I should have looked for juicy women. So what’s the difference between sexy and juicy, then?

What do you think it is?

I have no idea. That’s why I’ve been closeted.

You did know. What would it be?

It’s easy to be sexy and to look sexy, but when I think about being juicy, I feel more about it as sensual. So it’s being sexy from the inside out.

Sexy is what my wife is, and juicy is not what my wife is. Would that be about right?

No, it’s both.

How do I get my wife to be juicy, then?

When I think about juicy, I just like that word. It just feels like it’s a juicy fruit that you bite into and very tasty. It’s very sweet.

I’m going to try that as soon as she comes home tonight.

It’s radiant. I just like using that word. When I say it, women are like, “oh yeah, I want to feel juicy.” There is no definition, but I know that I want to be one. It’s just feeling radiant from the inside out. It’s awakening that part of them that they try to hide maybe throughout the year because they are professional or alpha-type women. It’s easy to be sexy and to look sexy, but when I think about juicy, I feel more about it as sensual. It’s being sexy from the inside out.

Because you have a sexy accent, I have to say that you sound like the Bond girl that would seduce me into bed and then strangle me. I feel that that’s your accent. Have you ever done that when you were in the intelligence unit? Have you ever played the seductive spy?

I did an independent film where I played a Mossad agent, but I can’t tell you about my military service because I’ll have to kill you.

Oh, but nobody listens to this show, Orion. It’s just you and me. You can tell me anything. I’ll just do a sexy voice, and they think it’s you anyway.

What is a love magnet, then? I was on your website, and that was the first thing I saw. Unfortunately, I don’t actually understand what a love magnet is.

A love magnet is just a metaphor for becoming an attractor rather than a hunter. When they enter the dating world, many women become the hunter, the aggressor, or the one of masculine energy. They are the ones who go after the guy, call him all the time, and pursue him all the time. 

A more masculine man will get bored and tired of that because his core is more of a hunter. He likes to hunt women. So if a woman doesn’t even give him this little play of allowing him to hunt her, he will get bored and move on.

What are you? Are you a juicy hunter? It’s so many different words. What would you describe yourself as?

I was more of a hunter. Women come to a certain age, and they’re like, “oh my God, the clock is ticking. I have to get a husband and a relationship. What am I going to do? I’m going to freeze my eggs. I need to have babies.”

They go, and there is somewhat of hunter energy in them. It’s more aggressive energy that comes across. They don’t show it, but men can sense it. When I think about myself, I am more allowing than trying to control everything in my life. I’m becoming more and more allowing every day.

We both are masculine and feminine. We both have masculine and feminine energies. I work with alpha women and successful professional women. I teach them that it’s not about giving up masculine energy or masculine traits, which are directed, driven, moving forward, conqueror, and even destroyer. Those are very powerful traits that we need, especially if we want to succeed in business and if we want to keep ourselves driven. 

I teach them to integrate the goddess part and the feminine part. Maybe they got hurt in the past, and now they look at their femininity as a weakness, not a power source, so they neglect her. When they enter the relationship without embracing that part of themselves, they become the man in the relationship. Then it’s two male energies within a relationship, and there is no polarity.

The majority of women are more feminine at their core. So I help them tap into that so they can handle a powerful, successful, and dynamic man without trying to emasculate and bring him down.

That polarity is the dance and the dynamic between the masculine and feminine energies. It’s like two magnets with static, excited energy; that is the polarity in a relationship. 

It doesn’t mean that they have to give up their masculine traits. These are very important, but they must also strengthen that goddess part. With their partner, they want to bring more of her because even if a woman dates a masculine man, if she’s too much in her masculine, eventually, to create polarity, he will drop into his feminine. It depends on what she wants. If she wants a feminine man, fine, stay in your masculine. Many relationships are like that. 

The majority of women are more feminine at their core. So I help them tap into that so they can handle a powerful, successful, and dynamic man without trying to emasculate and bring him down. But even though they’re strong and know they are powerful, they don’t try to compete, but they make him feel like their hero.

It sounds complicated, Orion. I imagine if I was in a bar—and I haven’t been in a bar trying to pull anybody for 50 years—and I was always thinking, “is she feminine, is she masculine, should I be masculine, or should I be feminine,” it’s just difficult. Is it something that naturally occurs, or can you train yourself to be like this?

It’s something that naturally occurs when a woman is on vacation. She’ll be this beautiful pixie-like open energy when she’s connected to nature and feeling full and confident. But still, because of the way the world is, we need to work, we have businesses, and we sometimes get too hard. 

For a woman, it takes a bit of fun training. It’s not hard training. It’s a training that allows her to release emotions—moving her body, connecting more with nature, and increasing self-love and confidence. But, sometimes, it takes more work for a woman to do that because many women are disconnected or don’t see themselves as beautiful, deserving, or worthy.

I accept what you’re saying, although I can’t imagine my wife being described as a pixie in any shape or form.

She can. Every woman has an inner goddess waiting to be awakened.

She’s a goddess, but she’s not a pixie.

Maybe she’s a queen.

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A queen of the pixies. What about that?

Okay, that sounds good.

Okay. I will say the queen of the pixies.

I was talking about the playful, childlike energy.

She hasn’t got that, however. So I don’t know what I’ve done wrong.

I believe she does. It’s a matter of tapping into that. You’ve seen it many times in your life. It’s about embracing that energy by creating more awareness around it and deciding I want to have more fun. I want to be more playful. I want to be more childlike. I want to feel free.

Another glass of Chardonnay, that’s what she would want.

But without a glass of Chardonnay.

It’s not going to happen, Orion. I’ve been with her for so many years. I need coaching on this. I don’t know where it’s all gone wrong.

Let’s take you back to the beginning of all of this.

When you look at other people, you greet them as you are, not as they are, through your filters.

David, this is your limiting belief. We live with people for years, and then we characterize them. “Oh, this is my wife or my husband, and this is how they are.” 

Your wife is showing up differently to different people with her girlfriends or her family because we are different when we are with other people. It might be—and it’s just a suggestion—that it’s just how you create her. If you look at your wife, she’s pure energy, a pure source with infinite possibilities. She can be made as anything that she would like.

This fascinates me. I take your point. Yeah, she’s different when she goes off with her friends and stuff because she’s not playing the mom or wife role, but isn’t that just the environment? Don’t we become what’s required in the environment? Is it possible to be something that migrates through all settings as a natural being?

Yes. When you look at other people, you greet them as you are, not as they are, through your filters. People are different in different environments, but how we see them also affects how they show up to us. It’s like if you take the idea of quantum physics where the object is not there unless you look at it. The thing is not there unless you see it. Your filter allows you to see it, but it doesn’t mean it’s there or not.

Yeah, but every day, I could say to her, “Oh, you look amazing, you look beautiful, or you’re this, and you’re that,” and she would say, “Oh, you’re supposed to say that. You’re my husband. Oh, I wish I had your eyes. I wish I had that.” So I’ll talk you out of that then.

Because we look for other people to make us happy, it’s like, “I’ll be happy when you tell me that I’m beautiful. I’ll be happy when you tell me that I’m great.” But we need to create our happiness. So it’s up to her to do the work to increase self-love and self-confidence, feel more embodied, look at herself in the mirror, and say, “I love you.”

Louise Hay says that when something good happens, run to the mirror and say, “I love you.” When something bad happens, run to the mirror and say, “I love you no matter what.”

I love the work of Louise Hay. Louise Hay says that when something good happens, run to the mirror and say, “I love you.” When something bad happens, run to the mirror and say, “I love you no matter what.”

I did a 7-day challenge with a group of 450 women. Every day was different. Some days were inner work, and some days were more fun, but the first day was mirror work. I can’t even tell you how many women struggled with that.

I know because in the past, after I endured an abusive relationship, I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror and say, “I love you” because I was full of shame, blame, and guilt. Also, all the brainwashing I underwent was like, “you’re not beautiful, you’re ugly, you’re fat, you’re this”—I believed that, and just looking at myself in the mirror and saying I love you didn’t happen the first few times because the woman in the reflection was crying. After that, I couldn’t say it to myself without crying. 

Sometimes, it takes determination to know there is a light in me. But I know I can grasp, hold, and increase it. So, I’m going to be persistent and go to the mirror every day and say, “I love you until one day, I’ll believe it, I’ll be okay saying it without crying, and I’ll feel amazing.”

When you say a lie repeatedly, you’ll eventually believe it, so why not say a good lie? You will feel it because your subconscious mind believes everything you tell it. Even when you’re joking and say, “oh, I’m so stupid, and I’m so ugly,” it might sound funny, but your subconscious mind understands it the way you say it.

Start being more mindful of your language. What you say to yourself and what you say to others about yourself will help reprogram the subconscious mind into believing, “oh, I’m smart, genius, and beautiful. Those things work.” 

One of my mentors, Dr. John Demartini, was told that he could never read, write, or communicate. Then, I think in 1990, he met somebody who told him, say, “I am a genius.” So he gave him an affirmation that included the words I’m a genius. Now, he’s one of the smartest people I know. He read over 30,000 books, teaches seminars worldwide, was featured in the movie, The Secrets, and lives on a boat with billionaires. He’s so smart that it’s hard for me sometimes to understand some of the concepts he teaches. 

That’s just because somebody came and told him, say, “I am a genius.” So he started believing in it, then taught himself to read and write. Every day, he would learn a word in the dictionary, and now his vocabulary is insane. He uses those big words.

Affirmations work; we can reprogram our minds for self-love and self-confidence. It’s not about other people telling us. It’s helpful when you’re in an environment where people nurture you, but that will not determine exactly who you will become because two people can endure the same trauma. One can become a motivational speaker, and one can end up in jail.

Yeah, I agree 100% with everything you’re saying there, but people can’t do this on their own, can they? Because I don’t know anybody who would be happy saying I love you in the mirror.

Funnily enough, the only person who says that is me. I always walk around the house, going, “hands up, who thinks I’m great?” I’m the only one putting my hand up, and all my kids just look at me. So I think inner competence attracts other people, and it is sexy as well.

What I’m going to do is I’m going to come back to that in a moment because it is fascinating. Let’s listen to some motivational words as we normally do, and then we carry on with this conversation. Here’s Jim Carrey:

I also know there are infinite possibilities for the things I love. I don’t want to put myself in one box. My mission is to light people up through love coaching or being a good friend.

“My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant, and when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

Have you found what you love now, Orion? Looking at the website, looking at your book, and looking at everything you do, it’s obvious. This is where you should be. Is it true you found what you love?

Yes, I do. I also know there are infinite possibilities for the things I love. I don’t want to put myself in one box. My mission is to light people up through love coaching or being a good friend. This is who I am. This is why I’m here. I found many things that I love, and I know I will find many more.

On your website, there’s something that intrigued me. I’ve listened to about four of your podcasts.

Which ones?

I can’t remember now, but I’d be honest, when I started listening to them, I didn’t think I’d like them. I thought it would be very girlified, but it wasn’t. It’s one of those things you feel like you’re almost eavesdropping on about ladies that you shouldn’t know about. Is this the perfect audience? Wasn’t I the ideal audience for this?

You’re the perfect audience. You’re so smart and engaging. I would love to have you as my audience every day.

I will be there. You could do more videos as well. I listened to Dame DC Cordova because I had her on my show. 

It is one of those shows I didn’t think I’d like, but I did like it because it’s more than something you can put your finger on. In every conversation you have, I agree with you as much as I disagree with you. Is that a common trait that people have? We’re trying to break down the conditioning that has led us to the point of having this conversation.

It’s not me teaching you what to do; it’s me guiding you to think for yourself. This is what I do with my clients too. I provoke a different thought process that creates better thoughts, actions, and results.

The bigger we get, the more polarizing we get. If you look at the most successful people in the world, they’ll always have their fans that are raving fans and people that completely disagree, don’t like them and don’t agree with what they say. If I managed to create that in you, I did my job because I provoked your thought process. It’s not me teaching you what to do; it’s me teaching you to think for yourself. This is what I do with my clients too. I provoke a different thought process that creates better thoughts, actions, and results.

The thing that I really can’t quite get my finger on is how you got to the point. It’s alright saying that you’ve got to do all these things and you can teach people, but do you have to have gone through the process yourself before you can teach? Have you mastered Orion’s Method personally that you teach, or are you still a work in progress?

I am a fire from a master. Even when I get to hopefully 120 years old, I will not be a master.

But you’ll still look the same. You’re in California, so you’ll be 120, still looking 24.

I was at the Bulletproof Conference with Dave Asprey. I was watching the guy that invented the XPRIZE from Singularity University. He talked about the future. It was called The Future is Better Than You Think and how with the new technologies, the average life expectancy will be 100, but we will also look beautiful and younger. Maybe when I reach 100, the technology will be so advanced that I will look pretty much the same.

It’d be rubbish, wouldn’t it? Having all these gorgeous people sitting around and can’t move.

I love this word, rubbish.

Yeah, it’s rubbish. I wouldn’t want to go into older people’s homes and see 30-year-olds being wiped out by a matron.

What was the question? I forgot.

I don’t know either, Orion. I’m too busy looking at your pictures and wondering why you’re covered in mud on this one. It’s throwing my mind off.

It’s when I did the Tough Mudder.

I’ll tell you what, it will be my screensaver from now on because it’s a good image.

No, I think this one was at the Dead Sea.

I still like it. I don’t know if it’s the Dead Sea, sexy, or whatever, but it’s juicy.

Mineral mud.

It’s a good image. So for everybody out there—this is traffic for you, Orion—go over to Orion’s website, orionsmethod.com, and look at the photos because they’re good.

That’s the only reason you visit the website to look at my photos.

There’s more to it than that, but I go where I like. If you look at what you’ve done so far, it looks very sexy and good, like you’ve ignited your passion and embraced your power. What stages have you been through to get to this? It seems very realized, but it goes in stages in all businesses.

Yeah, of course. I hope that nobody will have to go through what I’ve been through to become something bigger and better, but the reality is that many times, when people go through hardships, and they become stronger on the other side, they embrace the lessons and they find more of their true calling.

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I went through a lot of loneliness and depression after I had been through an abusive relationship. At that time, I grasped everything that I could learn. I was alone in New York. When you’re with a predator, one of their traits is they isolate you, so I was disconnected from my friends and family. I ended up in a hospital and didn’t want to tell my family. The loneliness was the most painful part. 

When I went to a psychologist, she wanted to give me medication. So even though I know it’s good for some, I knew there is a light inside. Even though it was buried, I could reach her and awaken her.

I started with little things like watching Jim Carrey’s clips—I love Jim Carrey—watching funny YouTube videos to make myself laugh, and reading books. Then eventually, I ended up attending many seminars, traveling worldwide, and studying great leaders and luminaries to become where I was. A part of my recovery was to learn martial arts because the question that went through my mind was, “how can I not get hurt?”

The physical part of not getting hurt was going and studying MMA and Aikido. I was kick-ass, and I was very much in my masculine. Even though I would wear dresses and look beautiful, I couldn’t date people for more than two or three months because of this energy of “I’m going to make sure that you’re not going to hurt me, and let me show you how strong I am” didn’t help find love and relationships.

Then, I went to a Tony Robbins event, Date With Destiny. On one of the days, Tony spoke about masculine and feminine energies. That’s how I learned about it. It was new knowledge. I had never heard of it before, but I was on an emotional roller coaster that day. I was angry and happy, and there was so much going on. 

Then, at 1 AM, when the day was over because Tony’s days were super long, I sat by a waterfall at the resort. I was singing a song I wrote when I was 16, singing to the stars. I had a breakdown and a breakthrough. 

I started crying and laughing and releasing, and eventually, I could write my relationship vision. Who do I want, but most importantly, who do I need to become to attract that person? Do I need to become softer, gentler, kinder, and loving? How am I going to show up in the relationship? 

I had a lot of clarity and was in a state of surrender. Not surrender from a place of weakness or a victim; surrender to the higher force to guide me because I’m like, “I can’t do it. Please help me.” 

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Forty-eight hours later, I met my husband. Within 24 hours, we said I love you to each other. Nine days later, he proposed on a hot air balloon in Vegas. I was a captive audience in a little basket in the sky. I said no and didn’t have anywhere to go, so it was a very awkward 20 minutes of descending.

What did you do then? It’s like being proposed to in a lift, and you’re stuck in the lift. What did you do?

It was so awkward. It was just me, him, and the guy that operated the hot air balloon. Later, I learned that he promised him that never had a failed proposal on a hot air balloon. That was the first one. Suddenly, the guy from the hot air balloon was recording us. Stephan is on one knee with a diamond ring, saying, “will you marry me?” I didn’t say no. I said, “no, not yet.” 

When we met, it was a different space. We met after six days of soul-shedding and working on ourselves. We met where there were no masks. There was so much less ego. We were just very pure, raw, and open when we met. That’s why the connection happened so fast.

It was awkward, but he was persistent. Then, nine months later, he took me to the same resort, he proposed to me by the waterfall, and I said yes. So we got married last year in Costa Rica.

Congratulations. If somebody proposed to me after nine days, I would think there was something wrong with them because, in nine days, you don’t know the person, do you?

No, I thought the same. I was like, “oh, maybe he’s crazy. Maybe I attracted another crazy guy.” I can’t believe it. But he doesn’t look very crazy. My husband is super smart and successful. I know the people he hangs out with who are amazing.

A part of me was like, “he’s crazy,” but another one said, “but I feel something different.” My intuition told me that he was amazing.

Is he looking at your book? Is he a real man? You’ve got a book, There Are Still Real Men Out There, which I must admit, I looked at and thought, “there are real men? We are all real men.” It got my back up a bit, Orion. I got a bit angry. I got a bit techy by that title. Is he a real man?

I’m sure every man is real unless he’s a character in a movie or cartoon. Then, it’s a real, physical man. But something that women say is I want a real man. So that’s why I used that.

But they don’t. They say, “oh, I fell in love with you because you’re different from all my other boyfriends,” then they start choosing the clothes they want them to be—they change you. 

I haven’t bought a pair of underpants in about 30 years. My wife buys all my clothes. She’s changed me. They like a real man, but then they want the man they want.

Do you think your wife changed you?

Yeah, absolutely. She changed me by emptying my bank account.

Do you think you changed your wife?

Absolutely, by filling up her bank account. So it’s a seesaw effect that we’ve got going on. She’s not here at the moment. She’s gone away for the weekend. She’s having a girly weekend out, so I thought this was brilliant. I can live life like a teenager. I can run wild. 

I don’t know what to do with myself. I’m like a domesticated hamster freed from the cage, but I’m scared to run away. I’m scared. I’m just clinging to the side of the cage in case something happens to me. So that’s how she’s changed me.

Really?

Yeah. I was like a wild man before I met her. I was crazy. Imagine Indiana Jones, that tough man, and now I’ve ended up as kind of a large hamster.

She did change you. I don’t see you as a large hamster. I see you as a very powerful, successful man.

But you haven’t seen me in my underpants first thing in the morning. So you wouldn’t think the same thing.

Thank you for putting that image in my mind.

It’s fine. I’ll email you an image, and then you can have it.

You keep putting all kinds of images in my mind that are entertaining. Even before we started recording the show, that’s how you started. Well, it will be just an easy conversation, and imagine yourself. You can share that.

This is a key point because without the listeners knowing, I do a scene set before I press record so that I know what a guest is expecting and the guest knows what I’m expecting. That’s how connections are built, that common ground and mutual area where two people feel safe.

Yes. Using humor with someone you don’t know is very helpful. I was very excited about coming on the show anyway, but as soon as we started to talk, I was like, “oh, this is going to be a great conversation.” This is fun.

It’s the best conversation I’ve ever had because I don’t know where to turn it on. There are so many different things, and I would end up annoying you with most of them.

Sometimes, to balance a relationship, we might neglect a part of our wild side or express it in another way. It’s just a part of our natural evolution.

I love that. You do not know me. To answer your question, just like that, when we enter a relationship, we change each other and become a little bit different. Sometimes, to balance a relationship, we might neglect a part of our wild side or express it in another way because you can’t just go party and be wild if you step into the role of a father and a husband. It’s just a part of our natural evolution.

I don’t want that, Orion. I still want the wild times, but I’m scared to have them. That’s the problem.

This is a conversation that you have to have with your wife. She may be missing her wild side too, and perhaps you can find a new expression for both of you that will be very fulfilling and satisfying.

She’s never here, having her wild times. I can’t have the conversation; it doesn’t work. Now, she’s here all the time. To be honest, I need her. It makes it sound like she’s never here. 

I’m going to be open here. My wife and I are so opposite. If she likes a program, I hate the program. If she likes this, I hate that. There’s nothing that we want other than each other and our kids. Those are the two things that pull us together. We know that we’re stronger because of the polar opposite.

Yes, exactly. That goes back to the magnet energy and polarity energy. It can be expressed as the opposite attracts. Why? Because there’s polarity and interest. You teach her things. She teaches you something. You sometimes agree to disagree. There is interest and excitement within the relationship rather than liking and doing the same thing daily. You need this excitement. You need variety.

I do. I’m going to have so much variety that I’m going to get fed up with it. So that’s what I’m going to do from now on. I will blame you if she complains that I’ve changed since she’s been away. I’m going to say, “go over Orion’s Method.” After an hour with Orion, I’m a different person.

Did you see people change dramatically when you do coaching? Do people come to you, and it takes your breath away how quickly people change in front of you?

Yes, it surprises me. When I coach people, I only take 100% responsibility for myself, but I see it as a co-creation between me, the client, and the source creation. So I take 100% responsibility for being present and bringing whatever I can. But, still, it’s also the client’s responsibility to be 100% present and do what I tell them to do because when people do what I ask them to do, they get breakthroughs. When they don’t, it’s a slower process.

I’ve been around and studied with great people. I know that my knowledge in comparison to the knowledge of the universe is zero point million zeros point one—if there’s any number like that. There are things that I know and things that I don’t know. The things that I don’t know, I don’t know, so what happens with my client is I see myself as a vessel for divine light to channel, and I almost get downloads and ideas. If I struggle or I’m like, “oh my God, it got in my head,” I go back to my body, the answer comes, and people transform.

One of my recent clients came for love. After three sessions, she stopped smoking. She was a heavy smoker for 15 years. I did a little process with her, and she quit smoking after 15 years. She didn’t come from me for that, but it happened.

I launched a challenge last Valentine’s for another woman in my goddess group. Last week, she invited me to her wedding. She’s slightly over 50, but she said something like, I’ve been waiting for this love for 50 years. I didn’t know that this type of love could exist.

That’s lovely. Did you well up? Because I felt a bit emotional when you just said that.

I couldn’t scream at that moment. I’m a screamer. I would go and be like, “celebrate.” I also believe in the power of celebrating because if we don’t celebrate our achievements, why are we doing what we’re doing?

I was so, so happy. I’m like, “oh my God, thank you.” This is my calling because people change and transform. It creates a ripple effect in their lives and their kids’ lives. This is why I’m here for. This is what I’m here to do. Thank you, God, for taking me through everything that You took me through so I can be who I’m meant to be. I also know that I’m infinite possibilities. I can always be more, and I can always explore more things.

What I love about you—and it comes across through the episode—is that you aren’t trying to do everything. You’re just trying to do the right thing. You’re solving a problem by getting people to solve their problems. Life has almost become easy because you’re not forcing things onto people. You’re just doing what’s good for you.

The real breakthrough happens when you see the right direction without them forcing or helping you to see it.

You can’t force transformation. I know neuro-linguistic programming and the language of influence. You can influence somebody momentarily. It helps me to push them in the right direction, but even though I want to tell them exactly what to do because I can see it, sometimes it will take them a month or two to see it for themselves. But when they see it for themselves, this is where the real breakthrough happens, and then they will never make that mistake again.

I’m going to be honest with you, Orion. I’m not blowing smoke up you here, but this is how I feel. Not many of you love coaches that I would migrate towards, but this is common sense as I go up and down your website. This is looking after yourself and making sure that you feel good. 

Much of it is a bit woo-woo that other people do, and I don’t like that. Yours seems to be practical advice, which is common sense but powerful. Did you see many of them where it’s all about sitting cross-legged on a lily pad for six hours a day and then humming a bit woo-woo?

When it came out, the movie The Secrets made people angry because it was like, working with universal laws. They didn’t use universal laws. They just used the Law of Attraction, meaning it felt like imagining that things will happen, and they will happen.

But there is also the law of action. You have to take action. As Dr. Wayne Dyer said, we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and having this human experience; we have to take action to achieve what we need to succeed.

Even when I spoke with Dr. Demartini, he told me they interviewed me for eight hours and then from the clip they had in The Secrets, it just sounds like this is what I’m talking about, but it’s not. It’s just how they edited the movie, so it will be easier to sell.

People look for the easy fix. People look for that magical pill that will change their life forever. Take the blue or red pill, and everything will be fine. 

It takes some work, determination, and persistence. Persistence is key. It takes faith. Those things don’t always come naturally when you’re not in a higher state.

I’m in a high state here, floating three feet off the ground, hovering hamster. That’s the best thing I could be.

My wife’s going to come by, she’s going to see a different man, as I say, and she’s going to blame you.

Okay, this is the end of the show. This is the part that we’ve been building up to. It’s been a very different show. I had an idea of what I would talk about, but you got me off track, being your professional podcaster.

This is the part we call a ‘sermon on the mic’ when we send you back in time to have a one-on-one with your younger self. So, if you could go back in time and speak to the young Orion, what age would you choose, and what advice would you give? 

We’re going to find out because I’m going to play the theme, and when it fades, you’re up. So this is the sermon on the mic—

You’re going to endure hard times, and you’re going to experience bliss and joy. You need to experience all that—that’s your destiny—so you can be the person you are meant to be.

Dear Orion, I want to tell you that I love you. You’re always guided, protected, and loved. I can’t tell you what the future holds because you need to go through everything that I went through to become who you are. You’re going to endure hard times, and you’re going to experience bliss and joy. You need to experience all that—that’s your destiny—so you can be the person you are meant to be. I love you.

Orion, what’s the best way our audience can connect with you?

You can go to orionsmethod.com and connect with me there. You can also listen to my podcast, stellarlifepodcast.com. I’m on Twitter and Instagram, @oriontalmay. And you can find me on Facebook, facebook.com/orionsmethod.

Yes, connect in any way that you want. Orion, thank you so much for spending time with us today and joining up those dots. Please come back again when you get more dots to join up because joining up the dots and connecting our pasts is the best way to build our futures. 

Orion, thank you so much.

Thank you so much, David.

That wasn’t the show I was expecting. I had an idea of how the flow would go in my head. I got taken off-track on that one but interesting. The positive energies, the feminine energies, and the male energies, I don’t know where I stand on that because I’ve been in a relationship for so many years. You forget that this stuff occurs. You live life. But I’m certainly going to be more focused on that.

Afterward, Orion gave me a little bit of coaching about how I can make my wife feel more appreciated, so I’m going to try that, and I’m going to let you know if the old zing has come back into the zang of my life, but until that time, we will see you again. See you later, bye-bye.

Your Checklist of Actions to Take

{✓} Practice balancing your masculine and feminine energy. Stabilizing your masculine and feminine qualities can help you be goal-oriented yet able to go with the flow, logical yet intuitive, and confident yet receptive.

{✓} Exercise self-love on a daily basis. Self-love means embracing everything about yourself – especially the imperfect parts. Remember, prioritizing yourself is never an act of selfishness.

{✓}Connect more with nature. Nature can generate many positive emotions, including creativity, focus, joy, and peace.

{✓}Release suppressed emotions by moving your body often. Dancing, stretching, swimming, and walking are all great ways to move and exercise.

{✓}Let go of limiting beliefs and inhibitions. When you surrender and let life happen for you, you develop deeper wisdom and knowing within you — you get in touch with your higher self. 

{✓}Work on becoming the best version of yourself before looking for a partner who deserves your love. Your vibrations attract the people who come into your life. 

{✓}Create a vision board for relationship goals. Write down what you want in a partner, but most importantly, write who you need to become to attract the person you want.

{✓}Identify your limiting beliefs and then  immediately denounce them. Life is short, and it’s your ultimate mission to live it to the fullest.

{✓}Be mindful of your language. Watch out for the things you say to yourself and others. The words you speak can either encourage or discourage you and the people around you.

{✓}Practice affirmation. Affirmations can help strengthen self-worth by boosting your positive opinion of yourself and your confidence in your ability to achieve your goals.

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